I heard Navy SEAL commander Mark Divine once say never quit in the dark and the resonance of those words have really stuck with me. Those words are fitting to my personality and what I had been taught in the military… NEVER QUIT IN THE DARK.
Last weekend my girlfriend and I took off for a weekend get away to stay in a cabin and relax. We both knew it had been long over due for us to get away and relax. We all need a break at times, so don’t wait for it, make it happen. I will do it tomorrow, or I will do it next week, are just sayings that will never happen. Words are meaningless without action to back them up. Make a decision and go with it. Anyway, we made it happen and we arrived in Truckee late friday night after work. - This of course was after we stopped on our way at In n Out burger, where my girlfriend proceeded to pound down two double-doubles, fries, and a milkshake. What a champ. - The fresh cool air, the unlit streets, the silence all started to sink in, and we began to relax for the first time in weeks. We both knew at that moment that the weekend was going to be a good one.
The next morning we were able to lay in bed until we naturally awoke without an alarm clock or without the sound of neighbors playing loud music. Even then after waking, neither of us moved for a good half hour, we had nothing we had to do and we carried no worries of the future. Having that sweet woman in my arms is a gift I made sure to enjoy. After finally getting our lazy asses out of bed we had a chance to mill around and slowly make breakfast. This was my first time using a coffeemaker that grinder the beans for me. I had one hell of a time figuring out how the damn contraption even went together and by time I had my first cup of coffee I had whole beans floating in the coffee cup, interesting. Thirty minutes later I had a watered down cup of coffee, but coffee none the less. I couldn’t help but laugh at myself and the situation, and I could see the amusement on Erin’s face. Oh, well… Breakfast went about the same way, I’ve cooked bacon nearly every day for years and some how I manage to burn the hell out of it. agh, oh well, breakfast was still a success.
Eventually we made our way outside for a casual bike ride that led us into the town of Truckee for some morning ice cream. Hey, don’t judge, I know you’ve done it too. We continued the course of the weekend and just not giving a damn and enjoying each other’s company as we headed over to the local climbing store to look around and converse with some of the local climbers. From there it was back to the house. Oh yeah, on our way to town we had the opportunity to bomb down a big hill on the bikes and take the bikes around some fun curves. I’m sure I had a grin from ear to ear and I looked like a damn idiot passing cars on my way down the hill. Sometimes its best to let go and be a kid again. Problem was we had to get back up the hill and seeing as how Erin had run 23 miles the morning prior her legs were burning. Thank God we got off and walked those damn bikes. Come hell or high water I would have biked the thing, but let’s just say I had a better time walking. That evening we made our way to lake Tahoe for dinner and the chance to see an amazing sunset over the lake.
Yup, if i hadn’t handed over my man card already for my girlfriend out eating me, not knowing how to use the coffee maker, or for walking my bike, I did now. -
I think Erin and I should just start having them bring the check out with the steak dinner. Once the filet mignon and the New York strip steak arrived it was all business and neither of us had time to talk to each other. Five minutes later it was time to head home. By time the waitress came back by to ask her standard question of how is everything ,we both slid our plates her way and asked for the check. On a side note, Jason’s Bar and Grille in King’s Beach was good, and we will definitely be going back. After that it was time for my ice cream and a movie. Escape Plan with Arnie and Sly was legit. Who cannot love the action movies with these guys in it? By the way thanks to my girlfriend putting up with my taste in movies.
Sunday morning started the same way as Saturday except I had learned how to make a mean cup of coffee by then. From there we proceeded to pack up and head out to Donner Pass for some trad climbing. This was Erin’s first time trad climbing and it turned out to be a blast. She, in her good nature and fun spirit pushed through her fear of climbing and made it up three pitches of 5.fun climbing. I will admit at one point I had to go out on the face of the rock near the top and thought to myself oh shit she is going to be pissed at me for having to climb this. However, once she rounded that corner I saw the biggest smile on her face as she yelled out how fun and scary that was. Dude, I was totally stoked, and proud of her. Those moves that push you to the edge of being uncomfortable are the most rewarding, and to see her push through was the best part of the day, hell, maybe even the weekend. After packing the rope and gear up we took a few of the standard selfie photos on the peak and hiked our way back down through the snow. Our weekend concluded with a drive home full of laughs and reenactments of the weekend. I couldn’t have asked for a better time or a better person to spend that weekend with. Sure there was plenty of things that could have been annoyances, but we let the stress go and we kept a healthy perspective on the situation.
Get away and let it all go once in awhile, and do it sooner than later. As for quitting in the dark, don’t do it. Wait for clarity of the day and mind before making decisions, be rational, and be confident. This weekend reminded that mindset and perspective matter. Most of our daily troubles are minor and only part of the bigger picture, or in other words symptoms of the problem.
Thanks to everyone that made the weekend happen for us!